I’ve tried out a few models for life in my 57 years. Some dictated by tradition, some by religion, some by the preferences and opinions of stronger personalities in my life who I looked up to or feared as the case may be. I’m still trying new things, but one model I’ve rejected is charting my path based on a quest for personal calling (to those with religion) or self-fulfillment (to those without it).

When my life is all about me, I can find all sorts of excuses to crush others in my wandering path, and I’ve certainly been trampled by others pursuing their paths where there are no lines uncrossed or lanes stayed in. No shared values or principles. Just interpersonal chaos as everyone wends their way to the top where the view into the crushing nothingness of their own empty souls is vast and dark.

That is not a path I recommend.