Go Easy

We all have wounds. Some visible. Some not. Some we had the opportunity to properly mourn. Some not. Some healed. Some not. We can’t begin to identify who is or is not in pain. Go easy.

What It Is

I’m learning not to weigh the good against the bad—the gains against the losses—in determining the sum of things. The good is so much better standing alone where the bad has no hold over it by comparison. I’m taking the moments as they come, crying over some, rejoicing over others, and letting each be what…

New Realities

We make positive advances during times of crisis, disruption and uncertainty. We make amazing discoveries under pressure when our efforts are focused on what is most important. We’re capable of rising to the occasion. We’re capable of learning how to do old things in new and better ways. We’re capable of recognizing challenges as opportunities…

Every New Thing

There will always be demand for another new story. For another new song. For a new chord progression. For a new perspective. For a new sunrise. For a new sunset. For a new day. For a new in between. There is room for every new thing. Even while there’s a repeat of every old thing….

Little

Thinking of the many little things that have tipped big scales this year and of all who are impacted by them. Little swerves, little germs, little remarks, little drinks, little pills, little stories, little glances, little decisions, little regard, little respect, little empathy, little vision.

Do not think that you will find truth or justice in a court of law where two sides are equally interested in telling only part of the story. That is a last and often ill-advised resort. Whenever possible, resolve issues sooner and in more constructive ways. Whenever you hear someone say, “The evidence says…,” or…

Rare But Never Wrong

We always have the freedom to treat others well—employees, customers, clients, contractors, vendors, colleagues and strangers we meet on the street. It’s never wrong to treat people with respect, regardless of status or circumstances—ours or theirs. It is never wrong to be kind, even in the face of disagreement or communication breakdown. These things are…

As a mother, I’ve learned that it’s possible to hear and acknowledge the pain of more than one person at a time, but each must be heard and acknowledged individually. To stand with one is not to ignore another. Every story of suffering is unique, as is every story of kindness and generosity. I reject…

One Up

Years ago in a law school mediation class, I learned that what people desire more than anything else is to be heard. It is a prerequisite to negotiation that leads to outcomes recognized as mutually beneficial, even when both give something up. It’s a prerequisite to healing and moving forward in a positive direction. Hearing…

On Us

We don’t get out of this life with a list of excuses or a long list of people to blame. In the end, it’s on us to care enough. To love enough. To recognize the value that came our way, whether or not we embraced it. To acknowledge the long list of people who invested…

Reunited

The piano, a family heirloom, was my parents’ first piece of furniture. I grew up swinging my legs on that bench. The cello was part of my father’s vast collection of instruments. In the afternoons after school, I would huff on a flute or saxophone, strum a guitar or banjo, and saw on my little…

Don’t Assume

If someone rejects your view or opinion, it’s worth trying to understand why. That requires listening and examining it from the outside. Don’t assume that rejection equates to misunderstanding. They may see a bigger picture than you do, or at least see something you miss.