One Up

Years ago I learned in a law school mediation class that people desire more than anything else to be heard. It is a prerequisite to negotiation that leads to outcomes recognized as mutually beneficial, even when both give something up. It’s a prerequisite to healing. Hearing isn’t about exchanging stories. It’s not one-upping with tales…

Don’t Assume

If someone rejects your view or opinion, it’s worth trying to understand why. That requires listening and examining it from the outside. Don’t assume that rejection equates to misunderstanding. They may see a bigger picture than you do, or at least see something you miss.

Between Snores

Mark and I slept curled up together on a single-sized bench bed in my mother’s hospital room last night. We were up and down quite a bit with her in the night and fell into a deep sleep by morning when things finally settled down. Between snores, he murmured, “You know what this means, right?”…