Don’t Talk Down

Don’t talk down to your elders. They’ve lived circles around you. Don’t talk down to children. They’ve made fewer mistakes than you.

Bigger Pictures

Weigh what others say based on bigger pictures, clearly intended meanings, and actual points made rather than slips of the tongue and poor word choices that we all are prone to make.

Catches Your Sail

A little self control is like a steady wind that catches your sail and carries you far.

Footholds

Those jutting rocks that make you stumble and lift your feet high on the way up serve as footholds on the way down.

Really About

All of our family road trips were never really about seeing the sights, learning about history, or having fun. They were about building faith, family unity, warmth, joy, and belonging unbounded by time or space. They were about lingering and laughing, loving and being truly present. I still see those things in my children’s eyes.

Walking on Water

Sometimes you wake up and find yourself walking on water, and you recognize it for the miracle that it is. ~August 15, 2015

Apple Pie

It’s my dad’s birthday today. The day I always eat something with apples in his honor. He would be 97. August has always been hard for me. So fraught with losses and heartaches. More so each year, to the point that I can hardly face this innocent, bountiful month of early harvests and endless summers….

Can’t Comprehend

I cannot wrap my mind around the lives of people I love who have been constant in my life since the day I was born being reduced to just an obituary—47,304,000+ minutes condensed to a few short paragraphs. It doesn’t begin to represent the loss.

Running Away

When I was little and felt like running away, my dad would grab my hand and say, “Here…I’ll go with you.” Together we’d wander through the mists and ponderosa pine forests of California’s foothills until there was nothing left to do but go home. Today is one of those days. Not so different from any…

Evidence

Do not think that you will find truth or justice in a court of law where two sides are equally interested in telling only part of the story. That is a last and often ill-advised resort. Whenever possible, resolve issues sooner and in more constructive ways. Whenever you hear someone say, “The evidence says…,” or…

Not Defined

Relationship is not defined by communication. It is defined by commitment, compassion, and goodwill. Out of necessity, I communicate regularly with people who care very little about me and who probably secretly rejoice when I suffer. Conversely, my four dearest friends and I hardly interacted for nearly 25 years, but when our paths crossed again…