My husband and I are staring down our 30th anniversary. Things we’ve learned…

1. Listen more than you speak.
2. Give more than you take.
3. Smile more than you frown.
4. Manage thoughts and expectations (mostly your own).
5. Recognize the value in each other and speak of it often to others.
6. Acknowledge the probability that others are giving more than you.
7. Accept that value for others isn’t necessarily defined by you.
8. Embrace the moments as they come and stop living for the next big thing.
9. Don’t keep score.
10. Give each other a break.