We complain longest and loudest about traits in others that we ourselves possess but are better than they at hiding, sometimes from ourselves. We tend to judge others for openly exhibiting traits we possess but restrain, such as selfishness, loudness, attention-seeking, or lying. As if our restraint erases the trait and somehow cleanses our inner selves. Which it doesn’t. It just tends to make us harsh and judgmental. If we can’t get away with something, we surely don’t want someone else to either. When a trait is truly absent from our inner selves, we notice it less in others, if at all. Pure motive produces pure perspective–a truly rare and wonderful thing.